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For Friends/Family of Special Needs Parents:

16 Mar

I think this applies pretty well to other special needs and not just autism.

In my virtual travels, I have noticed a major theme and source of extra stress for parents of kids with special/different needs and that is that family and friends that were a part of their life before the special needs came into play (before the child/children were born, before the parents became concerned and started seeking answers…  Anytime, really…) are either no longer present or seemingly unwilling (or actually unwilling) to accept their friend’s often complex responsibilities and family challenges and maybe their friend’s increased need for someone to listen, a friend who won’t judge them, just kindness … A FRIEND.  They could really use a friend. If you still want to be a friend (and this goes for family- immediate and extended pretty equally) but just don’t know what to do, here’s a great place to start:

(I do have other links like this…I’ll update and post them when I can…)

Your Child Has Autism, and I Don’t Know What to Say: Seven Ways to Go the Extra Mile to Keep Your Friendship Thriving

via Your Child Has Autism, and I Don’t Know What to Say: Seven Ways to Go the Extra Mile to Keep Your Friendship Thriving | Delightfully Different Life.

 

Please share this resource!  Us exhausted parents of special needs kids thank you!

xo

B

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One Day, No Hate.

5 Oct

“I saw a tweet from the brilliant and talented Jane Devin.  She is someone who makes me think and inspires me on a regular basis. She said, ” I wish we could have a one-day moratorium on angry speech. It’s so divisive, and it works against understanding.”  Within a few tweets, and some wonderful support, she launched a full blown effort.

And there it was. One Day, No Hate will be observed on Oct. 6th. On this day, we pledge to let go of all the angry speech and actually try to understand each other. On this day, we listen. On this day, we break down the barriers that separate us and respect our differences.

It is just one day. We all know that so much more is needed. But it is a wonderful start.  It is a needed start.”

Down To Earth Mama

Read Jane Devin’s writing on One Day, No Hate and then join us!  I hope this can be a productive and peaceful day!

I am thrilled about this, as I am becoming increasingly disturbed by the mudslinging and spreading of lies and hate, we are quickly going nowhere fast, in making this world a better place for everyone.  Hopefully, October 6th will open ears and minds.

Please share!

xo

Bek

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I can hear the ocean!

1 Mar



I can hear the ocean!

Originally uploaded by CleverIndie

Kiddo and I were looking through my vast digital photo library last night and found this gem…. (note: I don’t know who the owner of the rear end is…this was at the water feature at the wonderful Lakes Regional Park in Fort Myers)

Boy and his tunes….

12 Jun

Boy and his tunes….

Originally uploaded by CleverGirlBek

Boyo’s new radio + my ipod that is older than he is and doesn’t work so well but he thinks he is the big shidoobi… Boyo loves music. He is a big fan of Beethoven, Mozart, Neil Young, and Dan Zanes. He will often play the guitar, ukelele, or kazoozaphone along with whatever music he is listening to…

He frequently sings instrumentals to me with such conviction, seriousness, and passion that it makes me want to laugh and cry at the same time….

This is one of his things we are so proud of, yet it is obsessive and a bit compulsive and one of the things that throws a big ol’ flag up with the various professionals who have evaluated him and worked with him…

I’m just amazed he is this into music as I can’t carry a tune or play anything more than a c scale on the piano….

Found my voice…

18 May

Alas it is a little one…

Couldn’t speak above a whisper for 24 hours or so… Boy was worried…Kept climbing up on the bed to snuggle with me and waiting for me to speak and then would get so disappointed and say “Your voice isn’t big yet”…

The cool thing?  I could whisper from the bedroom when the boys were playing video games in the den(still want to call it the rumpus room. there is just something so hilarious and joyful sounding about “rumpus room”… ) and both of them would hear me. I didn’t even need to use the bell.

For 24 hour boyo listened to everything I said (thankfully his hearing is back since starting his antibiotics for the ear infection)…

The baldguy didn’t ask me to repeat anything. Which is amazing.  I think I said to him a couple of weeks, “I just want an hour where I don’t have to repeat anything. I’d save so much time and energy.”   So I guess I got my wish, even though I would rather not be in bed with a fever, in pain, and drifting in and out of consciousness….  Oh well, they still have to listen more carefully as my voice is not back full strength and I am stuck in bed, so they have to run the ship and because usually I’m the one who knows, they are having to be resourceful so as to not strain my voice or my energy… It’s amazing to watch and not as much of a disaster as I had imagined….(then again, I really haven’t left the master bedroom for 36 hours…)

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