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Hey Jude? I Hate You.

6 Dec

Uncovered a few clips of kiddo when he was younger… I found this gem.

Hey Jude is an angry song, if you are little and misheard the lyrics.

Must be the season of the witch…

28 Oct

Or it was back in 1977…(or ’78…I’m guessing 77 as that would be the last time a commercially available costume hat (and I’m pretty sure this was adult size) would fit on my great pumpkin of a head… )

Alex’s Journey to Camp Cheerful UPDATE July 9

11 Jun
Alex’s Journey to Camp Cheerful UPDATE…
I want to thank all of the wonderfully generous friends who supported us in our fundraising to send Alex to this special camp.  Unfortunately, life had other plans for the time being.  Due to fairly dramatic health issues (more on that later), I am unable to accompany Alex to Ohio, so we are postponing his experience at Camp Cheerful until next year. I did return all funds raised, to their respective contributors, due to the change in plans.  Alex is disappointed, but he is very vocal about wanting me to get better.  We are working at getting new therapists on board for him, locally and hopefully camp will be in reach next summer and I will be 110% again!  Thanks again to everyone who continually roots for Alex.  Alex is well aware of the love everyone has shown us along our long journey.
xo
B

Alex is my amazingly brilliant, funny, sweet kid who has Asperger Syndrome. Asperger’s is a neurological disorder, it is a developmental disability.

Alex is almost 7 years old. There is a summer camp (Camp Cheerful) in Ohio specially
designed for kids with Asperger’s. It includes things like Occupational
Therapy, which would be a huge help to Alex. The camp would help give
Alex the tools he needs to face his daily challenges, which are more
than most adults could tackle every day.

Here’s a wonderful description of Asperger’s Syndrome that recently aired on the PBS show “Arthur” (the meat of it is only until around 2:45… so if you aren’t into Arthur please don’t feel you need to watch all 7+ minutes!)

For a more straight facts, less dramatized (less animated) description please visit AANE’s AS facts. For our personal experiences please read the Asperger’s entries on my blog

Love and peace,
Bek, Jeff, and Alex

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Keeping kids on The Safe Side

23 Oct

The Safe Side

Seven year old Somer Thompson was abducted, murdered, and thrown away with the trash this week.

There seems to be an endless barrage of tragic news about abducted and abused children. I don’t know if it is happening more frequently, multiple media saturation, or if now that I’m a parent my ears are tuned more toward news relating to kids. We try to regularly review our “stranger safety” plan and emergency plans with our kid, but the necessity of increasing the frequency and intensity of reviewing these plans and practicing our emergency plans is highlighted this week.

Somer’s mom told NBC’s The Today Show :

“It takes just a couple seconds to tell them you love them,” Thompson said. “Tell them you love them because you don’t know what’s going to happen. And just make them aware of stranger danger. I tried with Somer. I feel like I failed — obviously.”

Our little guy tends to be pretty black and white, so when we first discussed the concept of strangers, we found that people like his grandma’s friendly neighbors fell into that gray area and he would just totally freeze up and then freak out- not knowing how to handle the gray area. Because of our extra challenges in teaching our kid so he can actually use the information, I looked long and hard at what was on the market (and online) that could help us explain “stranger danger” to him effectively.

After a little research I found “The Safe Side” a program by John Walsh and Julie Clark (you know- the Baby Einstein lady). They do have a website, but the DVD really helps get the point across in a fun and friendly way, that even my kiddo could understand. It teaches what to do in certain situations and most importantly uses a simple “traffic light” system to help kids remember the rules.

We enjoyed the DVD and I highly recommend it to any parent (kids 9+ might find it cheesy or goofy, but it still brings the message home).
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Remember, try as we might, we can’t be everywhere all the time. Teaching kids safety doesn’t lock them up in an isolated tower, but rather opens up the world to them by giving them the tools to navigate it safely. I remember a time when kids roamed the neighborhood free and only showed up at dinnertime. We do not live in that world anymore and we, as parents, need to educate our kids in different and more intensive and extensive ways than our parents educated us.

Amazon carries the DVD for under $10 (Amazon purchases through this link send a tiny percentage back to us. Woohoo! Thanks in advance!).

TheSafeSide.com’s website also has downloads and printables for parents and kids.

The whole safety thing reminds me of the parable about teaching a man to fish and feeding him for a lifetime. You can isolate your kid and keep them safe (and miserable) by exclusion, or you can teach your child to be safe and you will help keep them safe for a lifetime. The murder of that innocent little girl and the interviews with her mom in the media underscore the importance of frequently reviewing safety information and making sure it is information that our kids can actively use. I am also reminded of all of the “don’t touch, tell an adult” rhetoric given to kids about firearms and matches and lighters and the hidden camera news reports showing the kids doing the opposite of what their parents told them. We need to make sure our kids understand and can actively use and recall safety tactics.

There is nothing neurotic about quizzing your kid before a family outing, visit at a friend’s house, or even using action figures to play out scenarios (we use Playmobil figures as they are pretty generic and equally sized- underscoring the concept that you don’t know who is good or bad or dangerous by appearance alone).

We don’t want to scare our kids, but we owe them, and ourselves, their safety. My son knows about Somer. Her mama sang, with others at a candlelight vigil, “You Are My Sunshine”. I cannot imagine what Somer went through, I cannot imagine what her mama is feeling. I cannot imagine a world without my sunshine.

A little girl named Somer died this week, at the hands of a bad/evil person. Her mother wanted people to know how beautiful and sweet she was and how she wanted to be friends with everyone. (from the NBC Today Show interview)

Let’s do whatever we can to keep kids from being a statistic and another tragic story on the evening news.

Hugs all around.
xo
Bek

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Ticket to the Great Pumpkin Festival

2 Oct

Pumpkin Festival

Originally uploaded by CleverIndie

We use rolls of carnival tickets as a visual, tangible “token” instead of monetary allowance. This helps him stay on track, helps reduce stress for our whole family, and teaches him the concept of money and hard work.

The tickets accumulating in his bear shaped plastic jar “ticket bank” are another visual and we also track his daily and weekly ticket progress on a task sheet. He earns tickets for everyday chores but we also give him tickets for choosing to play with a toy from his “sensory bucket” (more on that soon, I promise!) and I give him an extra ticket here and there for doing little projects or favors for me. For the special project tickets, I usually write the date and task on the back, so we can reinforce with praise when reviewing the day or week.

Anyway, I was looking at the big bag of tickets he earned over the summer and didn’t want to put them in curbside recycling and I couldn’t reuse them with Alex (he’s very rigid in his thinking- we are working on it but at this time “re-earning” the tickets would totally throw off his game)… So I asked Alex if he could think of a project to do with them.

These necklaces are what we came up with and we make them together(he’s the very enthusiastic glitter department).

$5 of each necklace purchased goes towards Alex’s virtual school fund (he gets tickets/points toward his goal). He is saving up to take language lessons online, through K12.com.

To learn more about Asperger’s please visit NIH’s info sheet

To buy a necklace please visit my Etsy shop.

xo
Bek

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